Hey Tony, feel sorry to hear about your friend.
Well. You still can do different approach. Have to define first if he falls into addicted or yet still in a habitual phase (situation in which one start depending on chemical things or drugs to avoid any painful event or memories.) Straightly giving advices or suggestions are mostly ignorable. Sometimes what he need is empathetic gestures from close friends who are willing to feel what he feels. Gentle tap on his shoulder, sit along a bit longer time with relatively non offensive distance (not too close) will make him feel comfortable. Speak about normal things while he is still having his personal boundaries established. When you are sure you've gained his trust. That's the time to start having more specific words on what he has been through. Remember, do counsel, no judging, no advice, no "if I were you" words. Dig down his problem, explore together in what way he can positively cope with the matters, let he himself choose one. All you need to do is support him and discuss any consequences to be dealt with that arise from the made decision. Tell him he can do it, welcome him to any needed assistance. on the next bump, do not ask, let him start talking about the progress. if not, let him have his time.
That is how counseling works.
Hope that helps you a little.
Well. You still can do different approach. Have to define first if he falls into addicted or yet still in a habitual phase (situation in which one start depending on chemical things or drugs to avoid any painful event or memories.) Straightly giving advices or suggestions are mostly ignorable. Sometimes what he need is empathetic gestures from close friends who are willing to feel what he feels. Gentle tap on his shoulder, sit along a bit longer time with relatively non offensive distance (not too close) will make him feel comfortable. Speak about normal things while he is still having his personal boundaries established. When you are sure you've gained his trust. That's the time to start having more specific words on what he has been through. Remember, do counsel, no judging, no advice, no "if I were you" words. Dig down his problem, explore together in what way he can positively cope with the matters, let he himself choose one. All you need to do is support him and discuss any consequences to be dealt with that arise from the made decision. Tell him he can do it, welcome him to any needed assistance. on the next bump, do not ask, let him start talking about the progress. if not, let him have his time.
That is how counseling works.
Hope that helps you a little.
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